I am a victim of globalization and its lifestyle to sit, read and drink Starbucks for hours. It’s 3 am already and I am still outside, working on the assignment which is due for tomorrow. This is the kind of stuff I would not let my mother know, otherwise she would overreact. Can’t hide that I am enjoying the freedom of living alone here in Jakarta. 

The 5 favorite terms of mine these days.

I have thought that anyone of us might have that kind of person who always be there for us, that no matter how brokenhearted we could be, this particular someone can always lighten us up..

Some call this person as an “it person”… It can be your old friend, your best friend, or the friend who we take for granted (well that’s sad). This so-called it person will always know how to cheer you up, understand you, know your darkest version of yourself and even finish the sentence you’re about to deliver.

Most dramatically, even when you despise this it person at some points and feel hurt because of them, you know that eventually you will find yourself forgive them and you will feel hopeful again… Because simply you can’t just write them off from your life.

In the book written by David Nicholls One Day bluntly describes how Dexter still managed to spare a room in his heart for his friend Emma, no matter how many ladies he had dated and even he had married to other woman, it was Emma to whom he called first when he had troubles.. At the end of the day after those fourteen years and some break-ups and divorce, Dexter ended up marrying Emma.

On the other hand, my girlfriends had once discussed that we women were scared if one day we got married to someone but we still heart that it person. However I do not fancy the concept.. I strongly believe that somebody is for someone, thus other than the one-we-spend-the-rest-of-our-lives-with are clearly not meant to be together with us. That means, they may not supposedly be with us. They may be some kinds of temporary love flings that we need to experience before we really settle down, to teach us a lesson or two.

I have sometimes wondered if I got any it person. I may have one though, my so-called it person may be him, the one I befriended
for 6 years since we were still at high school, to whom I always found myself give in. There was this mutual understanding between us. No matter how shitty my days were, if I could just talk to him, I felt instantly invigorated. I secretly sometimes thought that we both should have been together.

Neverthelss, those were in the past (as I used Past Tense in the previous paragraph). Being together with an it person may not be the case for me now. Someday I may say that he is the it person that got away.

I happened to watch How I Met Your Mother today… This is the very first scene of the series that made me literally cry and so touched. 

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Marshall: “Lily, there are a million reasons why I love you. You make me laugh and you take care of me when I’m sick. You’re sweet, caring, and you even created an egg dish and names it after me… It’s called “Egg Marshall” and it’s awesome. But the main reason that I love you is that you’re my best friend, Lily. You’re the best friend I ever had.”

Lily: Marshall, I love you because you’re funny and you make me feel loved and you make me feel safe. And for our anniversary you gave me a sweatshirt that says, “Lily and Marshall: Rockin’ It Since ‘96”… but the main reason I love you, Marshall Ericksen, is you make me happy. You make me happy all the time.”

Hello! First thing first, this post is nothing about Coldplay’s song entitled same with this post’s name. It has been a while I have not written much. Perhaps it is true when they say that “students have more time than money meanwhile workers have more money than time.” Yes, time is something I wish to have more lately. However, I have the urgency of writing tonight as I felt a little bit too philosophical today, particularly in wondering about the existence of one’s life.

A friend of my friend (21 years old) had just passed away 12 hours ago, with a vague explanation behind his death. My friend told me that his friend was playing futsal last night and complained how exhausted he was, and the next morning around 3 am he was informed that this friend of his had passed away. There has been no any clear reason why, but probably it is due to his heart - it also reminds me of the well-known Indonesian actor and politician Adjie Masaid who passed away after he played futsal.

This was quiet a shocking information for me, even though I did not know this friend of my friend. A 21 year old man would have just started his life. He must have many things he wanted to achieve in his life, he must have wanted to graduate from university, he might have dreamed to go to Europe one day or he would have waited for so long to fall in love. Nevertheless, all of his aspirations are just gone too fast as he could not breath and wake up anymore the next morning. My deepest condolence.

For me, absorbing this information is like having knocked out by loads of tennis balls in the face. It is like a wake up call for me and my friend, that life is indeed beyond our control. In life we can dream, we can plan things, we can wait for things, but we often overlook the fact that one day we can always be helpless and lifeless. We clearly never know when our time comes. What if God takes out the life from your hand when you were not prepared at all, as we may never be prepared for death? Thus, we should never take our time and life for granted. In addition, it is going to be a new routine to praise the Lord for every morning we can still get up and just live… 

Later in the day, my friend and I promised each other to improve the quality of our lives: to live well. It all starts to make sense to me the saying “Live like you’re dying,” that a dying man will not waste every second of his life because he is fully aware that his life is going to end soon. I think it is enough reason to halt the argument that we understandably can do any misbehaving with the excuse that we are all still young. The thing is, you can never guarantee if you will still have another chance tomorrow to make up for any misbehaving you did today, can’t you? 

bookstorecouture:

Atlantis Books, Santorini, Greece

Cute bookstore + beautiful city = heaven on earth.

SANTORINI IS MY PARIS. J’adore SANTORINI. 

Thank you Ameliarhea :) :) 

It does take guts to really speak what we want to say to someone, sometimes we are wondering the right time to do it because we are scared of rejection. However, that clock is ticking and  when it comes to express what we feel I believe there is no better time than “here and now.” 

It is also our Human Rights to speak up our minds. Literally this is in line with article 3 of Universal Declaration of Human Rights, in which stated “Everyone has the right to life, liberty and security of person” because  having to express our opinions is a form of liberty, right? 

Red Dress Run - an annual event of Hash House Harriers (an international non-competitive running clubs, thanks Wikipedia!). In Sorowako itself, Hash House Harriers held the Red Dress Run on Monday the 14th November 2011 in Sorowako when all men & women ran in red dress. The money was collected to help the local widow with 3 young kids.

From left to right: KM, VD, DWD, DR (I decided to put the initials only as they found this picture as disgraceful)